Reciprocal Ideal Types: The Folklore That Similar People Are Drawn to Each Other Was True.

Birds of a feather flock together: The old wives' tale that similar people are attracted to each other was true.

Isaac's Ideal Type

On our third date, Isaac told me, "You are my ideal type." Isaac's ideal type was a woman with a proactive and independent personality, a graceful figure, and a ladylike style. And according to him, he likes strong women. Although he used the term "strong woman" due to his limited Korean, he actually wanted a partner with equal and healthy ambitions. I am a proactive and independent woman overflowing with energy and ambition, who clearly expresses her opinions. Honestly, I wondered if there would be a man who could handle me. The advantage of a woman like me is that she becomes a responsible partner who delivers 100% of her share, but conversely, the fatal flaw is that she can be tiring for a man. I know a lot, so I have a lot of opinions, and I suggest we read books together, take classes together, and so on, so I'm not an easy woman. Isaac looked at me very favorably. He said I was exactly his ideal type and loved it. I met Isaac's aunt, and she also said that she was so surprised that Isaac had brought home the woman he had always talked about as his ideal type.

A part of "Lean In" that reminded me of Isaac While reading "Lean In" by Sheryl Sandberg, former COO of Facebook, the part about choosing a spouse made me think of Isaac. According to Sheryl Sandberg, when the time comes to settle down and get married, one should look for a man who wants an equal partner. She suggests choosing a man who believes that his wife should be wise, express her opinions, and have ambition. I don't know if this applies to everyone, but for a woman like me, who wants to continue working and moving forward, I felt that I could shine more when such a man is by my side.

+Additionally, he said my skin color was pretty. I always felt my skin looked like I was born with a tan, and he was the first person to compliment my skin. Most Korean men prefer women with fair skin, but he's American, and he loved my tanned skin, saying it was pretty in contrast to his own. I'm happy to have met a man who accepts and loves my personality and skin color, which might be considered flaws by some, as my greatest strengths.

Yeongju's Ideal Type

My ideal physical type was Choi Jun-hyeok, the husband of actress Jun Ji-hyun. When I first saw Isaac, I was surprised because he resembled Choi Jun-hyeok. I put their pictures side-by-side for comparison, and they really do look alike.

My other ideal physical types were actors Lee Je-hoon and Jung Hae-in. I like the transparent and clear boyish charm. Isaac has that boyish charm. He's exactly my type, my ideal physical type. My ideal personality was also my prayer request for my spouse, and Isaac fits all of them. 1. Someone with good character; someone with a warm heart. 2. Someone who is incredibly good to our family. 3. Someone who makes me feel at ease when I'm with them. 4. Someone who can laugh with me. 5. Someone who reads books. 6. Someone who is kind and warm-hearted. 7. Someone who loves and cherishes the real me more than anyone else in the world; someone who sees my soul. 8. Someone to learn about and serve God together; someone who can attend church and read the Bible with me on weekends. 9. Someone who supports and encourages everything I do. 10. Someone who speaks beautifully. 11. Someone who is funny. 12. Someone who is very intelligent and wise. 13. Someone who is family-oriented; a good father; someone who will be the best father; someone who can raise children well. 14. Someone who grew up receiving a lot of love; someone who is full of love. 15. Someone with good character who gets along well with people. 16. Someone who is loyal. 17. Sweetness personified! 18. Someone who enjoys exercise; someone to exercise with! Therefore, for me, Isaac was my ideal man in both appearance and personality.

+Another interesting thing is that people say we look alike when they see us. We do resemble each other. A phrase we always hear while we're out together is, "You two look so much alike!" The old wives' tale that similar people are attracted to each other was true. Not only do we look alike, but we're both super ENTPs, have similar personalities, share a strong intellectual curiosity and a tendency to keep exploring, enjoy discussions, and even have similar senses of humor.